This can be a time when your marriage can be at great risk. The children may have left home and suddenly you sit down in the evening and look at your spouse or partner and wonder what on earth you really ever had in common.

Was it only the children that held your relationship together? Now that they have left home, do you feel that you just don't have anything left to speak about? You go out to a restaurant to break up the monotony of everyday living and end up talking about your food and looking at other couples, or worse still, texting on your phone. You wonder what is ahead of you.

You may want to take sailing lessons or hire a Harley and drive across Route 66 to Los Angeles but your spouse wants to sit at home and watch television. So where do you go from there?

This is a time of readjustment for you both, a time of discussion and making the effort to get to know one another again. A good deal of water has flowed under the bridge since you both took the decision to live your lives together and now is a good time to reassess yourselves, both as individuals and as a couple. A time to look at unrealised dreams and a future where there is still time to make your dreams become reality.