Not all couples divorce when their relationship runs into trouble. Many soldier on remembering that they entered into a partnership “for better or for worse” but what impact does this have on their self-esteem and ultimate happiness?
Different cultures bring with them their own richness and learning. Not only will you be getting married and that means a new situation for you but you might also be entering into a new family situation with new traditions, ways of living and expectations that need to be realised.
You may think you have an understanding of your fiancée's culture as you have been together for a while but most of your time will probably have been spent as a couple and not with their family and that is a different matter altogether. You may well have spent time popping in and out of their home but not necessarily had any deep meaningful discussions with them about their expectations, hopes and fears.
Academic research shows that 'getting married' is high up on the list of stressful life events. So why should that be? Well, first and foremost there are all the preparations in the lead up to your wedding– so much to do and often so little time to do it in. The day itself will present a new situation for you and it may well take you out of your comfort zone. You and your partner will be the centre of attention all day. You will be meeting and greeting, perhaps making a speech and that in itself can be quite stressful.
With all the wonders that there are within your marriage, the highs and lows, the ups and the downs, there can be nothing more important than finding simple ways to say I LOVE YOU.
It can be said with words with a cross at the end of the note or a passionate poem. Whatever works for you and your partner is just fine as long as it is said and it really does work.
