Every family has their own way of doing things and conducting themselves and this new learning about your partner's family may take a new attitude and mind-set that focuses on valuing and respecting the differences between you all. Getting married can bring cultural differences into sharp focus when it comes to agreeing on the marriage service and it is essential that this is managed with great sensitivity.
Don't forget, your partner's family also have to get used to you being culturally different to them as well. This cultural acceptance and adjustment is not just "one way traffic" and takes working on from both sides.
Tips:
- Keep an open mind when you are learning about your partner's family and their culture.
- Just because you do things differently to them doesn't mean that your way is the only way of doing things. Be sure to look for common ground and core values.
- In order to get along with each other, it is best, in the early stages of your relationship, to sit and discuss some of these issues so that everyone has an opportunity to share their thoughts and feelings. By doing this, nothing is left unsaid or becomes a 'surprise' nearer to the wedding day.
- Make a point of studying the culture you are entering into and talk through some of the sensitivities and expectations that come with it. Your willingness to understand and appreciate cultural differences will clearly demonstrate your love and respect for your partner.
- Do not make assumptions or let cultural stereotypes influence you before you have had time to fully appreciate what is important to your partner and his extended family.
If you need support managing cultural issues in the run up to your marriage or you are experiencing difficulties saying exactly how you feeling to your partner, relationship advice and support is at hand. Do call Carole for a FREE, confidential 15 minute consultation. It helps to talk so do call on: 020 8954 1593 or email her at: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
