He proposed and you said ‘Yes’! It is real– you are getting married! A part of you is in a complete state of disbelief. You thought it might happen to you one day and now it actually has and those euphoric feelings transport you on to Cloud Nine!
In a single moment your status has changed from ‘single’ to ‘engaged’ and a whole new world has opened up ahead of you. It is going to be amazing and you feel as if you are the only person who has ever been engaged to be married!
Planning to get married can bring up new perspectives in your life. All of a sudden you start thinking of yourself as a prospective wife/ husband with all the attendant issues that go with the role. Thoughts of children and becoming a parent flit through your mind– surely you aren't ready for that yet! After all, you only just decided to get married!
But then you start to look at babies in buggies being wheeled down the road and you realise that you are indeed entering a new chapter in your life and it all seems to be happening so quickly!
Academic research shows that 'getting married' is high up on the list of stressful life events. So why should that be? Well, first and foremost there are all the preparations in the lead up to your wedding– so much to do and often so little time to do it in. The day itself will present a new situation for you and it may well take you out of your comfort zone. You and your partner will be the centre of attention all day. You will be meeting and greeting, perhaps making a speech and that in itself can be quite stressful.
Constantly finding fault with your partner over petty, inconsequential issues or tasks can be extremely damaging to a relationship so don't do it!
Continual finding fault is a sign that you don't respect your partner and respect is all important for a happy and healthy relationship. If you persist in finding fault with everything your partner does or says, a growing resentment will develop between the two of you and it will undoubtedly cause angry words and unnecessary emotional stress.
