Issues such as these could potentially wreck your retirement and ultimately destroy your marriage and if your spouse won't change and isn't willing to work on improving these matters, then your retirement will not be the relaxing, fun time you anticipated .
If what is happening in your relationship is a deal breaker, then this is exactly the right time to seek professional guidance to help you both through these difficult times. Discussing the problems you are experiencing with a relationship expert will give you both a greater idea of how your behaviour is impacting on those closest to you and ultimately what harm you are doing to each other and your relationship.
You can move on in situations such as these and sometimes working through issues with a relationship expert can make your relationship stronger, but there has to be a keen sense of commitment to do so to make your relationship work now that you have entered this new phase in your life.
Tips:
- You may be able to help your spouse to modify their behaviour but you may not be able to change them.
- Accept what you can and cannot do.
- Have realistic expectations of who they are, their values and their goals.
- Some situations can be dealt with and other situations will be deal breakers.
- You may need to seek professional guidance from a relationship expert.
If you are having trouble adjusting to retirement and finding it hard to say exactly how you feeling to your partner, relationship advice and support is at hand. Do call Carole for a FREE, confidential 15 minute consultation. It helps to talk so do call on: + 44 (0) 20 8954 1593 or email her at: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
