When you run out of conversation and have nothing to say to each other, there is a real chance that your relationship could be heading towards serious problems. You may wonder why you are going out to eat in a restaurant if you are just looking at the walls or talking about the food that you are eating!
Now there is nothing wrong with sitting in silence and just feeling content with the fact that you are doing so and it is true that some couples speak more than others and that is fine but the warning signs are there when you look at your partner and think to yourself "I actually don't want to speak to them".
Balancing togetherness and individuality is undoubtedly the key to a healthy relationship. Being a couple and at the same time maintaining a strong sense of yourself is not an easy one but it is important to manage your need for time together as well as your need for time apart.
There is certainly nothing wrong with being apart and doing 'your own thing' however it is important to find the middle ground and make sure that both you and your partner have quality time together and apart.
I know you are going to tell me that you know your partner and of course you do. However, you may not know them as well as you think you do once you start living together.
As soon as you become an item, your partner may not necessarily react in a way that you thought they would and this can bring about a lack of understanding on their part and lack of appreciation on yours.
Your wedding is approaching and you feel really stressed out. You keep bursting into tears and snapping at those around. Stop right now and take stock of what you have achieved. Reflect on each day and remember the positive things that have taken place during your day – in fact each and every day. We often remember the bad things that happen to us and focus on them but how many times do you remember the good things that happen and talk about them.
Is every day a grey day? Are you living your life in black and white?
If you are struggling to shed the winter blues then here are some tips to help you put some colour back in your life.
Every year, about one in four people in the UK may experience some kind of mental health problem. Anxiety and depression are especially common problems that are very debilitating and often need medication to bring under control.
Counselling often helps people suffering with anxiety and depression come to terms with the root cause but there is much that you can actually do to help yourself. The self-help book market is awash with books offering great advice on managing anxiety and depression but often it is a case of using books in conjunction with counselling to achieve long lasting relief from the debilitating effects of anxiety and depression.
Research commissioned by Mind and published today has found that work is the most stressful factor in people's lives with one in three people (34 per cent) saying their work life was either very or quite stressful, more so than debt or financial problems (30 per cent) or health (17 per cent).
The survey of over 2,000 people found that workplace stress has resulted in 7 per cent (rising to 10 per cent amongst 18 to 24 year old's) having suicidal thoughts and one in five people (18 per cent) developing anxiety. For more information about this survey go to: mind.org.uk/work
In the fast paced world in which we live, there are times when our lives just seem to get out of balance and we really need to try to get it back on track.
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- Stressed, depressed, anxious? I can work with you to regain balance in your life
- Problems with a new relationship? I will help you overcome your issues
If you are 60 plus and in a new relationship then you may be interested in this article http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2285646/Sex-60-One-writer-laments-If-men-it.html?ito=feeds-newsxml which I came across today.
The article is sensitive and well written. It deals with the reality of a achieving a rewarding and intimate physical relationship as we get older especially with a new partner.
You may be one of the millions of people struggling to cope with anxiety. Overcoming anxiety is something that takes time. You probably want to stop panic attacks and anxiety overnight, but your anxiety has been with you for some time and it may not be that easy to shift. There are tools and techniques that can certainly help you control your anxiety and make it far more manageable. Here are three simple pointers that I use with my clients that may help you in your battle with anxiety
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