Academic research shows that 'getting married' is high up on the list of stressful life events. So why should that be? Well, first and foremost there are all the preparations in the lead up to your wedding– so much to do and often so little time to do it in. The day itself will present a new situation for you and it may well take you out of your comfort zone. You and your partner will be the centre of attention all day. You will be meeting and greeting, perhaps making a speech and that in itself can be quite stressful.
Constantly finding fault with your partner over petty, inconsequential issues or tasks can be extremely damaging to a relationship so don't do it!
Continual finding fault is a sign that you don't respect your partner and respect is all important for a happy and healthy relationship. If you persist in finding fault with everything your partner does or says, a growing resentment will develop between the two of you and it will undoubtedly cause angry words and unnecessary emotional stress.
Retirement brings with it a new set of challenges for couples but rest assured whilst you may be able to change yourself you probably cannot change your spouse.
It is challenging when faced with a spouse who demonstrates behaviour that you find hard to accept such as gambling, excessive drinking, spending too much money, or being unfaithful. Retirement offers the opportunity to pursue hobbies and do all the things you have previously not had time for but it also offers the opportunity to over indulge in pastimes that are not necessarily good for your relationship.
Plan ahead for this new chapter in your life and enjoy every moment of retirement.
Are you looking forward to your last day at work? With your 'happy retirement' card in your bag and a spring in your step you leave the office for the last time. Are you excited about the future? Do you have plans to travel or take up voluntary work or do you wonder what on earth you're going to do with your time. There is no doubt that the key to a successful and fulfilling retirement is regarding this next chapter in your life as a challenge to relish and above all enjoy.
